Men cheat because it is in their nature. They are the Yang side of any species and as such, that requires certain properties, one of which is urgency; another that is contact with a target; scratching an itch. Impulse to Go, To Be, To Penetrate.
I would posit that gay men are the most manly of dudes because they do sex for sex’s sake, the true nature of Yang’s projective, amoral nature. Not that gays are amoral, but that the Nature of Pure Yang is to Project, regardless of anything else. Regardless of feelings, which are Yin, or morals which are centered in the Nexus of humun experience, which is both Yin and Yang.
Wimmin cheat too, but it is more overt for males because, they are more male than ladies. The wimmin that do cheat, do so for different motivations. They cheat on the edges of their lives. Wimmin cheat in the dark, sneaky. The Feminine Archetypes are about submission, acceptance and transformation, so naturally we are inclined to cheat when no one is looking. Ladies cheat to support an agenda of security. We are trying to get a better situation. We need to feel better about our beauty. We need to fulfill a silent agenda. Feminine sexuality feline, sensuous.
Men, on the other hand, cheat out loud, in the light, because they can, like dogs. They are known for it. Cheating is expected of men in leadership roles. Martin Luther King cheated on his wife? Of course he did. Bill Clinton cheated? What??? Of course he did. Trump too? Wow! Of course he did. How about Jimmy Carter? Prolly not! Why? Because he was a Good Man. Maybe so, but was he a respected leader? No, not really. We saw his pacifism as weak and the proof of it could easily be reflected in his marital faithfulness.
Why does the matter? Because to know ourselves is to manage ourselves. Choice is a job; it doesn’t happen by accident. If we want to live our lives on purpose, we must understand the qualities of Our Makers and then understand them within our own lives, our own bodies.
Metaphysical studies help us get there. This is how I do it. How do you find yourself in the mists of reality?
Let me know in the comments. We should talk!
Yes, exactly. And doubly so regarding gay men.
Camille Paglia once noted: “Gay men are guardians of the masculine impulse. To have anonymous sex in a dark alleyway is to pay homage to the dream of male freedom. The unknown stranger is a wandering pagan god. The altar, as in pre-history, is anywhere you kneel.”
I have also had that thought about gay men (my best friend, in fact). It was strange to be a male virgin in college, because all these guys made it their duty, with proselytizing zeal, to try to make me like them, that is, "experienced." It was bizarre. Why would they even care? I guess I was some kind of living rebuke to them? Sex is sacred, and life is produced from its groanings, and to use another person as meat to satisfy one's urges . . . well, there has to be a price to be paid for that. And I suspect that it is a very sad price.